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To transform society - from violence to peace - we need to attachment parent, to practise conscious parenting.
Dr Thomas Verny, one author of The Secret Life of the Unborn Child, talks of building Babies Not Jails here (accessed 20 February 2014):
"Violence does not occur in a social or cultural vacuum.
Violence is endemic to our society. Our institutions, values, beliefs and
rituals are a function of who we are as human beings. And who are we? There is
not one of us who has not felt anxious, helpless, dejected, rejected, angry,
criticised or shamed by the time we were two years old. Most of us, in
addition, have suffered some form of emotional, sexual or physical
mistreatment. We are the walking wounded. Considering the hurts, the injuries
to body and soul that we have all experienced in our own personal histories and
the history of our species, it is a testimony to the strength of the human
spirit and the power of human love that we are as civilized as we are. Our only
hope for a better world lies in heightening and deepening this innate capacity
to care, to nurture and to feel for others.
To achieve that, we urgently require government policies that will reduce poverty, eliminate income inequalities, eradicate homelessness, and ensure status enhancing work (if possible in paid employment) for all. Abolishing the sexual and economic exploitation of children should be a high priority on any governments' legislative agenda. Censoring videos and television programs featuring gratuitous violence, could be expected to have a small but measurable effect.
What is not needed is to fight street violence with state violence. We don't need more police, more courts and more jails. We need more conscious parenting. Conscious parenting leads to positive psychogenesis [mental and emotional development] and is based, I suggest, on understanding and practicing the following simple rules.
Guidelines for Conscious Parenting and Positive Psychogenesis
Mothers and fathers need to learn:
The pregnant mother should make every effort:
5. After Birth
6. First Few Months
I hope you will agree with me that to transform the violent world of today into the peaceful world of tomorrow, we need to change the way we treat our children from the very beginning of their lives."
The Origins of Violence by Ronald Goldman, Ph.D. [external link]
The problem children who are really victims
(BBC) [external link]