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Our attitude to food often reflects our relationship with Love.
If your relationship with Love has been traumatised as with childhood abuse, or by a dysfunctional society that only celebrates ultra-thin role models for beauty - then your relationship with Love has been damaged. This is attachment trauma.
At a society level, this attachment trauma reflects a patriarchal culture that seeks to control women. Your society only loves you if you are thin, immature and vulnerable. As opposed to fully woman, adult and empowered.
Consider model Sara Ziff (BBC, posted and accessed 29 November 2012):
'A 13-year-old girl can be naturally skinny, like a beanpole, in a way that a grown woman, who has hips and breasts, generally can't - and shouldn't aspire to be. And I think we need to ask ourselves why that's become the ideal. Why do we have this perverse fascination with images of such young girls who are so small and inexperienced and really quite vulnerable? There's a Peter Pan syndrome in fashion. As soon as we start to get older and show signs of maturity, we're told to go on an extreme diet, a lot of the time, or we're discarded and replaced by a younger model. The models never grow up. And that sends a message to women - we're not allowed to grow up.'
Thus you are only loved by society if not grown up = eating disorders to be not grown up.
This is a long and ongoing battle, to create an equal/fair society. The best you can do is realise that you are up against these powerful forces. Then practise Self-Love, become fully woman (e.g. explore goddesses), and become active in campaigning for change (even if only by petition signing).
At a family level, this attachment trauma need not be how many think of childhood abuse. It can arise from unloving parenting and societal techniques like hospital birth, sleep training or the unnatural system of schools. So, society can challenge eating disorders by reverting to the ways of Natural Family Living, Attachment Parenting, Natural Education.
At a personal level, if you have an eating disorder, you need to acknowledge that you do.
It may be wise to share this with caring people that can support you.
Then you need to practise Self-Love.
And you need to learn to love and enjoy food.
"You’re supposed to enjoy food...", says ex-anorexic Rebecca Hills (BBC, 2m28s, posted and accessed 10 February 2019).
The ability to enjoy your food is probably the most important 'diet' you need.
O.M. Aïvanhov talks of The Yoga of Nutrition where our attitude to nutrition is far more important than what we eat or how much we eat.
You need to bring a sacred, thankful, joyful and compassionate attitude to food:-
Rather than automatically always watching TV or some other screen while you eat?
Some may say that their eating disorder is due to enjoying their food too much!
Then you may need to understand the 'Animal' in us and how evolution has created us.
This is explained in more depth in both The Conflict between Evolutionary Skills & Modern Life and Overweight.
If you cannot yet love yourself or cannot enjoy food, then you are still in the process of healing yourself. This is okay. Keep going.
Be patient and compassionate on your journey...