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We start with some quotes:-
"You cannot fail at being yourself. A cat doesn't try to be a tiger, and you shouldn't try to be something you aren't. You are a process, not a product. Your job is to discover what you are and create that creature. You still won't be perfect, but success isn't about perfection - it is about authenticity. You are a success if you are being your real, authentic self." (Bernie Siegel, MD)
Failure is an invention of modern education and a primarily competitive culture (vs. a primarily co-operative culture) [see #8 & #2 here].
David DeAngelo calls failure an illusion, a static man-made concept - and very destructive when linked to self-worth. It needs to be eliminated.
Perhaps this is what Yoda alludes to when he says, "Do. Or do not. There is no try."
If you love it and just do it, you never fail, you can continue forever (even if it is in your imagination).
"Faced with some failures, you might feel discouraged to the point that you tell yourself, ‘I am incompetent, weak and stupid.’ Very well, you may well be all that, but it is dangerous for you to dwell on it. When you experience states of this kind, show that you still have a little intelligence and make efforts to think, ‘All right, I may not amount to much, but there is a world of rich, beautiful, and wise beings, and I am going to unite with them by means of thought in order to benefit from their qualities and virtues.’ I assure you that this will help you.
Also, try to recall all the wonderful moments of peace, light, and inspiration that you have already experienced, for you have experienced at least some. And since you have experienced them, they cannot be wiped out. Cling to those moments, and little by little, courage and faith will return to you." (O.M. Aïvanhov)
Goal Setting & Self-Worth
Also, if you must live with success and failure, link your self-worth to things where you have most control over the result (partly sourced from Bob Dorris), where:-
"You, too, are a winged being, whether or not you know it. Enfold what seems dark with your wings of light, and harmony will always prevail. This is Nature's promise to us all." (Ann Napier)
Be kind to yourself...
You may look around at your 'more successful' friends and family and feel inadequate, especially if you're looking at their social media. Social media is a lie!
Everyone presents their most polished selves and hides their insecurities, so remember, you're not the only person in the world with doubts and worries. As the saying goes, 'Don't compare your insides with other people's outsides.'
Everyone feels bad sometimes, but feeling bad doesn't mean you actually are useless.
You're way stronger than you think. (BBC, posted and accessed 2 May 2018)
"Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You." (Dr. Seuss)
"It doesn’t matter what other people think about you. It’s what you think about yourself. And you should do the same thing I do and look at yourself in the mirror and say empowering words about yourself. It helps a lot. You should be like, “I’m smart, special, creative”. Don’t let, really, don’t let the words people say about you get to your head. Don’t let them get to your head - at all." (Kheris Rogers, age 11, role model for dark complexion, BBC, 1m37s, posted and accessed 10 August 2018)
"Depression is often not intense sadness – it is suppressed anger that’s been directed towards yourself." (Barbara De Angelis, PhD, Making Love Work, Personal Guidebook, p.53)
Who Am I?
Who Am I? Quotes