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| Win-Win & Negativity Bias
Wikipedia (accessed 25 February 2014) tells us:
"Negativity bias is the psychological phenomenon by which humans have a greater recall of unpleasant memories compared with positive memories. People are seen to be much more biased to the avoidance of negative experiences. They seem to behave in ways that will help them avoid these events. With this, humans are much more likely to recall and be influenced by the negative experiences of the past."
Wikipedia then explains:
"The capacity to put more weight on negative entities than positive ones likely evolved for an important reason: to keep us out of harm’s way. From the beginning of humanity is has been our most important survival skill to be able to stay away from or dodge danger. Knowing this survival technique, our brain has developed systems that make it hard for us to not notice danger and respond to it."
To best handle this evolutionary skill in the modern world, we need to adapt to it.
What does this mean for various areas of our life?
Intimate Relationships & All Relationships
"This [negativity bias] is the bias that means that negative events are far more easily remembered than positive ones. It means that for every argument you have in a relationship, you need to have five positive memories just to maintain an even keel." (Toby Macdonald, BBC, posted and accessed 24 February 2014)
We need to find styles of parenting that are win-win.
Punitive styles of parenting are NOT suitable.
Attachment Parenting and Natural Family Living are suitable.
We need to develop Effective Communication with Children.
We need to find a system where everyone feels like they are winning.
This is NOT capitalism, nor is it historical socialism.
There must be something else.
We need to place GNH (Gross National Happiness) at the centre of money matters.
Other systems and ideas are explored here (and here).
We need to place GNH (Gross National Happiness) at the centre of politics.
We need to have a style of education that is not dependent on grading and comparison. Lifelong learning is essential. See here.
We need to have far more win-win sports and leisure activities.
Competition unfortunately is a contributor to human unhappiness.
A joke made by chess player Bill Hartston illustrates this. He said that chess is a contributor to net human unhappiness, since the pleasure of victory is greatly exceeded by the pain of defeat (cited here, posted 23 December 2012, accessed 25 February 2014). This applies to all competitive activities.
We need to establish a society where competition is NOT central.
As elucidated in 'Sports' above, competition contributes to net human unhappiness.
Improved approaches to money, politics, education, parenting - that are NOT dependent on competition are essential to adapt to our inherent negativity bias.