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Outer Game refers to tricks, techniques and processes used in Dating and Intimate Relationships. Some of these like learning pick-up lines can often feel corny and weak. This is why Inner Game is far more important. However, some aspects of Outer Game are very helpful, like:

'Evolutionary' Outer Game

This is about following the courtship ritual. All animals follow a mating script and humans are no exception. According to David DeAngelo, a prominent dating expert, women can verbalise all these steps if asked, but men generally have no idea they even exist! Men don't understand these steps are usually required to progress the courtship.  In his eBook
Bridges, he lists them as:  

1. Approach (Walking over and saying hello); 

2. Digits (Getting a phone number, email address, etc.); 

3. Date request (This can actually be done when you first meet); 

4. Date (The actual time with her); 

5. Hold hands (The first sustained physical contact); 

6. Kiss (The first 'intimate' contact); 

7. Alone in private (Trust); 

8. Make out (Sexually aroused); 

9. Clothes off (Very sexually aroused); 

10. Sex (Very very very sexually aroused!).

This means that women are more like fires that generally need a sustained approach to ignite their passion, unlike men who are more like light switches. 

Outer Game for Men

Small Offers - One key outer game method connected to this process-orientation of women is Small Offers. Men need to learn this simple skill!! Susan Bratton of Personal Life Media (accessed 15 March 2013):

"Think of yourself as a sensual waiter with a very rich menu of sexy ideas from which your gal can select. She might want a little snack. Perhaps a breast massage with organic oil? Or to sit on your lap and have you kiss her and stroke her hair, her back, her thighs. She might want a little something more... Seldom does a woman really want an offer of full out sexual intercourse. That's too much too soon. We need to be warmed up before lovemaking sounds good to us. You'll have a LOT more sex if instead, you run her these menus of options, likely starting even smaller than these ides with a sensual massage, a bath together, a back or foot rub. (I know you get tired of foot-rubs but they get her in her body so you can escalate, so do it lovingly and with all the sensuality you can muster remembering we're a slow fire that needs tending to get white hot.) The more SMALL OFFERS you make her, ultimately the more sex you'll have. If she turns your offers down, scale them back, don't take it as rejection, just try again. Remember: There is no failure, only feedback..."

Outer Game Resources for Men

For education in outer game, there are many possibilities, but some that I have found useful for men are:- 

David DeAngelo - subscribing to his email list brings much free advice. Some of his advice:-
  • Wussiness, or being a wussy, is a major turn-off for women. A wussy is a weak, needy sort of style of relating. It helps to read his emails to understand... Wussiness also involves being habitually nice to get what you want, which can be perceived by women as manipulative, and often is - rather be kind because that is who you are, and also stay true to your values and purpose on Earth (integrity).
  • Cocky Comedy is a very potent dating skill to develop. See video examples.
Jim Benson - great programs on sexuality and relationships. Wow!

Carlos Xuma - slick dating tips and programs.

Marni - Your Personal Wing Girl - offers many free YouTube videos.

Personal Life Media (tons of free articles, audio). They also offer brilliant programs like Seduction Trilogy and Revive Her Drive. Some tips include:-
  • A String of Offers – Make Small Offers She Can Easily Say Yes To (start small so it’s an easy “yes”) - as described above.
  • 'Thank You' process The best response to any feedback is a simple, “Thank you.” If she can blurt and you can adjust, she can stay in her turn-on and you can take her higher. Allowed Susan Bratton the freedom to speak during sex that blew the doors off their passion. Use her mantra, “There is no failure, only feedback.”
  • Erotic Vigilance – Notice Where She Is In Arousal So Your Offers Match Her Needs (pay attention to her so you know what to offer). 
  • Vulnerability – Be Honest About What You Want Out of Your Intimacy (own and state your own needs and desires with integrity). Read about Relationship Values.
  • Vision – Hold the Leadership Role So She Can Surrender to a Lovemaking Plan You’ve Created Perfectly for Her (be the leader in the sexual relationship and show her possibilities). You'll have to visit their website to learn more! 
Outer Game for Women

Outer Game Resources for Women


Untried, untested:-

Her Aspiration - Dating Tips for Women without the Fluff. As seen on Buzzfeed, Lifehack, wikiHow.


Summary

Susan Bratton says here (accessed 4 January 2014):

"People don’t really get GOOD at sex until their 50s or 60s and you can have a hot sex life until the day you pass on. Sex is one of the most nurturing and healthy experiences you can have. So notice yourself becoming more confident and orgasmic as you move toward co-created bliss together."

It would be great if humans could start becoming great at sex and authentic relating much younger than this!
It would prevent a lot of violent and abusive behaviour by sexually frustrated men.
When men learn how to interact with women without coercion, money or violence, I am confident that the 1 in 3 women currently having to endure physical or sexual violence will hugely be reduced. 

These simple skills of outer game and inner game are something the world desperately needs.
They are far more important than technology, or what schools teach, or university.
Let's make sure men everywhere can access this information preferably for free.

After all, this is for World Peace...
Also see:-

Inner Game

Sexual Consent & Harassment

Articles on Sex

Articles on Relationships

Articles on Love


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