Hate
Hate
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Hate
Hatred lasts longer and is more pervasive, overwhelming us and obscuring all other feelings. Hatred wants us to take action and hurt or destroy the hated. Hatred arises when we feel intensely threatened, in danger of being annihilated, as in wartime. We fear and hate what threatens us. Hatred usefully mobilises us against such a threat! At an interpersonal level, we may feel hate when our self-worth is deeply threatened, when we may be exposed to unbearable shame/rejection/worthlessness. In such situations, handling hatred can be hard due to ambivalent feelings for the other, often leading to us splitting the hatred off and redirecting it onto clearer enemies. To face this hatred head-on, first take time out from the other to reduce its intensity, and destress your lives to create a calm space to heal. Otherwise it likely manifests at divorce and lasts for life. (Adapted from Joseph Burgo, posted 14 February 2013, accessed 21 December 2017) 
I don’t have a minute to hate, I’ll pursue justice for the rest of my life. (Mamie Till, the mother of Emmett Till, the 14-year-old black boy abducted and lynched by Mississippi racists in 1955) I have decided to stick to love ... Hate is too great a burden to bear. (Martin Luther King Jr.) There is perhaps no phenomenon which contains so much destructive feeling as moral indignation, which permits envy or hate to be acted out under the guise of virtue. (Erich Fromm) Humans have the habit of responding to evil with evil and to hatred with hatred, but this old philosophy has never produced good results. So often, in trying to get rid of an enemy, they actually tie themselves to their enemy! Because when we hate someone, it's exactly as if we love them. People think that hatred cuts ties. On the contrary, it creates ties as strong and as firm as love. These ties are of course different: love brings certain things, and hatred brings others but just as surely and as powerfully as love does. All that is good opposes evil, and it is thanks to love that we can fight hatred. Evil is always defeated in the end, for God refused to make it immortal. We can compare every word and act of hatred to a stone thrown up in the air – with time, it has less force to rise up. Conversely, a good word or an act of kindness can be compared to a stone thrown from the top of a tower – with time, its movement and power gain impetus. This is the secret of good: although it may be weak at first, in the end it is all-powerful and triumphant. (O.M. Aïvanhov) Each Russian tank destroyed and each Russian soldier killed increases the Ukrainians’ courage to resist. And each Ukrainian killed deepens the Ukrainians’ hatred. Hatred is the ugliest of emotions. But for oppressed nations, hatred is a hidden treasure. Buried deep in the heart, it can sustain resistance for generations. (Yuval Noah Harari, The Guardian, posted and accessed 28 February 2022; this refers to the 2022 Russian invasion of Ukraine) Resources
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