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After our industrial civilisation has broken and the civilisation of
touch has begun, war will cease, there will be no more wars.
(DH Lawrence in Future War)
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| Culture of Touch
The Culture of Touch is a society based on healthy bonding and attachment parenting., as well as using touch as an angelic or magical act.
This Culture of Touch is closely allied to the Culture of Love.
So, what does this all mean in real or daily life?
In this video (3 minutes 47 seconds, posted 2016, accessed 2 August 2016), obstetrician Michel Odent tells us we have a crisis. We have controlled nature too much, rather than flowed with it. He tells us that most women today do not give birth with their own hormones, because they can use synthetic hormones, a drip, an epidural, drugs or Caesarean section. This means that most women globally do not have to release a flow of love hormones to birth babies. This is absolutely new to humans.
Do we want to create a society which is not founded on love, affection, touch?
Breastfeeding is a clear demonstration of how far we are from a Culture of Touch.
Only 1%-2% of women in the UK exclusively breastfeed for six months (BBC, posted 10 February 2017, accessed 11 February 2017), yet this is the minimum recommended by WHO (dated 2017, accessed 11 February 2017). Also see here.
Mothers are regularly attacked by society for public or extended breastfeeding. They are even threatened with social services or accused of child molestation. See here.
In Why Love Matters, Sue Gerhardt explains why love is essential to brain development in the early years of life, and how early interactions between babies and their parents have lasting and serious consequences. It uses the latest findings in neuroscience, psychology and biochemistry.
Also see Violence & Socio-Cultural Shifts where the issue of violent touch/corporal punishment is condemned.
Holding someone's hand or hugging someone is such a human thing to do at times of great joy and sorrow. Respect people's boundaries if they say or show that they do not want to be touched or hugged.
This can be hugs or handshakes or other traditions.
The most spiritually powerful ritual that I have been taught is the Māori hongi.
Learn how here. I was taught (by Matiu Te Huki) that we hold each other by the shoulders, lean in, allow our noses and foreheads to gently touch, then close eyes, breathe and be present for a while (seconds to minutes even).
When our noses and foreheads gently touch, there is an exchange of energy between our third eye chakras:
"We remember that we are interrelated and that we are part of the Oneness of everything that exists". (Dr Rangimarie Turuki Rose Peri, Māori Elder, 1m12s)
"People need to be touched. They want to be touched. We grow through touch. We feel connected through touch." (Denise Knowles, Relate counsellor and sex therapist, BBC, 7m59s, posted and accessed 30 November 2017)
The Culture of Touch applied to intimate relationships is more about affectionate touch than sex. Pleasure alone does not necessarily bring extended happiness. The reason sex can equate with greater long-term happiness is because of the accompanying cuddling. It's more than just sex. Affection connects sexual activity and well-being. We need more than just sex. See here and here. Also see 4 Kinds of Intimate Touch.
Touch in health is where complementary and alternative health (CAM) is integrated into the national health system. This will include CAM like reflexology, acupressure, Indian head massage, aromatherapy massage, etc. Currently only 5 of 200+ CAM modalities are available on the NHS. Most health issues that doctors encounter are chronic and very suited to CAM, including many that involve healing touch.
This is the healing presence of therapy animals in hospitals, care homes, petting zoos and so on, where they can be touched and stroked.
It is also the use of therapy animals with delinquents and criminals to teach respect for others and for life.
Milt Lessner, a 104 year old who has had dogs all his life, thinks dogs are the secret to longevity, especially the bonding. He is a retired psychiatrist and used to bring dogs to his work to help relax patients.
Have you ever hugged a tree?
Or felt the softness of a rose's petals?
Or the rough texture of bark?
When touch and exercise combine in a supportive synergy, we are likely to see win-win activities. This could be fun games where we all use our bodies to seek a win-win goal. Or it could be certain types of dance, from sacred dance like paneurhythmy to community dance.
Magical or Angelic Touch
"In whatever you do, think only of spreading beneficial influences. You can do this by means of your hands, which are among the best instruments for transmitting them. When you caress the head of someone you love, instead of seeking egotistical pleasure, concentrate on your hands and say, ‘May God bless you. May light reign in this head, and may all angels come and make their home here.’ At this moment, your love will no longer be sensual; it will be transformed into a beneficial energy and will also bring you an extraordinary sensation of joy and expansion. And when you touch the head of your child, or its small arms and legs, bless them as well, so that the angels come and make them a magnificent being. Learn to bless everything you touch: objects, food, and other beings. This is true white magic." (O.M. Aïvanhov)
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