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| Skirting Around
Let us not skirt around the issue.
Often there seems to be furores about women in short skirts asking for 'it':-
On the other hand are people saying that men need to control themselves. Only the (male) perpetrator is at fault. Never blame the victim.
In the Stephen Dixon incident, Sarah Churchwell, a University of London professor, asks the question: "You're walking down the street and you get punched in the face. Are you responsible for having left your house?"
I want to remove the 'house' part, as I could get punched in the face in my house too.
So, for me - and without looking at all variables, like spiritual angles - as a man, if I get punched in the face, am I responsible for it?
I believe it does depend on what I am wearing and on how I have been behaving.
If I wear Ku Klux Klan gear in a black area, I surely should expect hostility! In the prank I just linked to, in the comments, one person say the prankster should have been killed, whilst another asks why can't he dress as he pleases.
If my behaviour is aggressive or confrontational, I am likely to attract a punch.
Alternatively, if I am drunk or have fearful body language, violent predators may see an easy target. Unfortunately, this is the way human society is. Beat him up for fun, for theft, even for rape or enslavement.
Gavin Henson, a former Welsh rugby player, combined drink and aggro to get punched in the face. See here or here. He even excused himself because of excessive alcohol.
So, yes I can be partially responsible for getting punched in the face.
Perhaps she didn't understand the difference between antisocial and asocial violence? It might have been better if she had asked whether he would be responsible if he had been raped? The Gavin Henson example is an antisocial case, whilst rape is always asocial.
But even in asocial violence, there are often ways to minimise it, which is looked at further below. No blame for she or her, and in the long-term, ways are offered to minimise it.
Anyway, Sarah Churchwell goes on to say, it is only when we are talking about sexual assault that we say that the person assaulted was responsible.
I do not talk about assault like this!!
This is why I have an article on Violence & Common Sense.
This is why off-duty elite soldiers will position themselves strategically in public places (e.g. restaurants), so that if assault/terrorism does happen, they minimise the damage or risk likely to themself and their loved ones, and maximise the chances of a quick getaway.
This is why I have articles on:-
But we prepare for the worst.
In all types of assault, we need to ensure that individuals can be more empowered (with suggested articles hyperlinked above).
And we need to work on ways that society can reduce violence, such as:-
We, who aspire to be good, must avoid blame whilst offering love, wisdom and skills. So, love and care around/after the incident, and the bigger picture only later.
We all must take responsibility for our dysfunctional society and build a successful society where this assault is unlikely to happen, a Culture of Love.
Political Correctness [PC1]
Blame or Empowerment? [PC2]
Dress Codes [PC4]
Excessive Political Correctness [PC5]
Sexual Consent & Harassment